My life is work and family. The last time I went on a date was when I went to lunch with Ken back in August, and I paid. I get involved in hobbies and projects, and I flirt when I can, but mostly I try to make people comfortable and happy. I don't go to work looking for dates (and would NEVER date anyone I've met at my new job--all the single guys are too short or too awkward), I don't go to a singles ward, and I avoid singles activities with all my might. So I work, I occasionally go to lunch with some of the other women there, and I come home and hang out with my family, or I don't come home and instead work on outisde projects with fun people. The goal of my social interaction is not to find a husband, but to do something challenging and meet like-minded people. I'm sure there are people out there who would say I'm wrong to take my focus off husband-hunting, but it feels right to do things that make me happy. I don't buy into "The Secret" and I refuse to compete with 20-year-olds, so I usually end up doing my own thing and enjoying myself. In fact, I enjoy my time a lot more when I'm not constantly worried about whether or not someone approves of what I'm doing. I think God approves, and that's enough for me.
Do I want to get married? Heck yes I do! But I'm not going to force anything or anyone. I've prayed about this, and the answer I almost always get is "hang on, he's coming." So I do my thing, find happiness in my family and friends, and try to be my best self. When it's right, it'll happen. Until then (and probably even after), I'll be looking for a tap dancing class to take.