Wednesday, November 28, 2012

I promise...

Last night I had no fewer than three people ask me if I'm seeing anyone.  It kind of made me laugh, because I know they just want me to be happy and they think I'm worth dating.  I'm usually not offended when people wonder about my love life.  One of them, a dear elderly man, said he couldn't understand why I wasn't married yet.  He said I was attractive, talented, and smart; I smiled and thanked him and told him I would definitely let him know when I started dating someone.

When I get engaged, I want everyone in the world to know it.  I want them to know that it was worth the wait and all the prayers and tears and questions.  I also want them to know that it is better to be single than to be in a rotten relationship.

I want everyone to see my engagement ring.  I know engagement rings have a controversial history, but I want one.  I want a visible symbol of love and commitment, but when it comes down to it, I'll be happy with something very simple like a plain band.  I want to marry someone observant and thoughtful enough to ignore convention and not be pressured into buying a big diamond just because everyone says he has to.  I want to marry someone who wants to buy me pretty things. 

Let's be honest, though, I do want a really sparkly ring.  And I WILL show it off every chance I get.


TRS said...

For me, as I got older, I think the only thing worse than being asked all the time why you're single... is when they stop asking!

I agree with you, I'll shout to the world that I'm engaged. Finally, someone loves me!! But I don't agree about the ring. Yes I want one, but I don't like it when people show off the ring as though that's what the engagement is about. That it's what she's worth or something. I'll be proud to say I'm engaged, but I won't show the ring until someone asks to see it.