Thursday, December 18, 2008

Penny for your thoughts

The situation: A couple guy friends and I had just been in the car for 8 hours. I'm basically wearing pjs (athletic pants and hoodie). We're in a reflective elevator up to one of their apartments to hang out a little longer and meet some other people. I check my hair and makeup and mention, off-handedly, that my hair has gone a little crazy.

"You girls worry too much about people think."

I heard it again a week or two later.

What is too much?

Of course we worry about what people think. We're trying to attract a mate, remember? Do peacocks fan their feathers because they're more comfortable? Maybe, but they're trying to attract a mate. So, if there is a chance I'm going to meet someone, I don't want to look like I just stumbled out of a car after 8 hours, even if I did. If I am not obviously attracting someone, I wonder if it's because I laugh too loud, or if my dress makes me look bulgy, or any number of things. I'm not preoccupied with it, but I want to present myself in the best way possible. In an effort to make conversation, I may mention something like my ponytail of wavy hair having gotten a little out of control.

Is that what signifies "too much"? When it spills out into conversation? I still don't know, but conversations like the following certainly don't keep me from wondering what people think.

(The very first IM from this guy that day. No "hi" or anything.

Him: you're hillarious!

me: I know. I try.
But why am I hilarious today?

him: I'm not going to explain, it will ruin your day, I just wanted to know that sometimes you just make me laugh.

me: As long as it's a good thing that I make you laugh.

him: that's right!

Thanks for that.