Friday, February 13, 2009

What will these kids think of next

Facebook has added a whole new dimension to relationships. The last time I blogged here was right after Kitt and I had decided to make our relationship official (Definitions). I must admit I didn't understand how big that was. I have since realized it is huge.

The next day I got home in the afternoon and checked Facebook. The first thing I noticed was that I had a relationship request. It said something to the effect of, "Kitt has requested to be in a relationship with you. Accept. Ignore. Block." For some reason, making it public like that seemed huge. I clicked, "Accept." (He said if I'd done something else we would've had to talk some more.)

That one click of my mouse opened a whole new can of worms. We watched members of the ward comment on the status change to each other (nothing like church gossip!). We both got comments from various friends. One of my friends was upset she hadn't been told the story yet. And another friend called me that evening to get the story and was wondering why she was so out of the loop. It hadn't even been 24 hours yet!

So it's big, and it's out in the open now. And I kind of like it.

Discussing Facebook with him, we agreed that it would not be the appropriate way to propose. No matter how technology changes our lives, I hope it will never be acceptable to propose by sending the message, "Bob requests to be listed as engaged to you. Accept. Ignore. Block."