Someone(s) for everyone

Finding love is difficult. Made even more difficult by the fact that not only do you have to find someone that you can love. But you have to find someone that you can love, who also happens to love you too. And you have to love each other at the same time!

I have two friends who took a couple of years to get engaged simply because it took them that long to want to do it at the same time. First he wanted to but she wasn't ready. Then she decided she wanted to but he didn't want to by then. They went back and forth for a while and now have a lovely marriage with beautiful kids. But it just shows how hard it is!



But, I have to believe that there is someone out there for everyone. I really don't like it when people say that their husband "died in the war in heaven." I know they think they are making a funny joke. But really, that would imply that the person they chose premortally did not choose the plan of Heavenly Father. And I have higher standards for myself than to think I'd choose someone like that.

It also implies that there's just a "one and only" for each person. Which I also don't agree with. Love is a choice. It is an action. It's not some big hole you fall into and if you happened to speed through a yellow light instead of stopping you'll miss meeting your one and only while waiting at the red light. There were probably several people I could've been happily married to, it just would've been a different kind of happy.

And if even Oscar the Grouch can find someone, well, at some point, there's someone (probably several someones) for everyone. Just gotta get that darn timing down right.