Finally joining in!

About Trixie:

I am chained to my desk while dreaming of evening gowns and quiet jazz under a disco ball-sparkled sky. I have more hobbies than I can count on fingers and toes but never enough time for all of them. Big cities are exciting but I love being able to see the stars at night. I'm a mountain girl who loves cats and dogs equally. I frequently consider and reject the idea of graduate school, but I know I need to improve my skills and education to support myself more securely. Deep down inside, I want the "white picket fence, 2.5 kids, 'kiss the cook'-apron-wearing husband at the grill in his Hawaiian shirt, floral wallpaper in the den" dream, but it hasn't happened yet. So I focus on being the best person I can be and having faith that as I strive for that goal, other things will fall into place. I have occasional small moments of self-pity and bitterness, and frequent moments of intense gratitude and quiet happiness.

One of these days, I'll find an appropriate picture for my profile here.

Jinxie's the name

Life is the game.

I have a major sweet tooth.

I'm currently both a full-time professional and a grad student.

I dance. As often as possible.

I stay up late, and the earlier I wake up, the hungrier I am.

I love to travel, even all by myself.

My music is eclectic. I can listen to Il Divo one minute and Metallica the next.

I'm a percussionist, but cannot play the drums on Rock Band to save my life.

I don't always let go very easily.

To me, holding hands is often more of a sign of commitment than kissing, therefore, I've held hands with fewer guys than I've kissed.

As hard as it can be, I will never regret having been single for longer than most of those I went to high school with.

Call me Roxie

For now, you can call me Roxie.

A little bit more about me.

I love a good bubble bath.

Creating with my hands is my therapy.

I can never read enough books.

I've left my job and returned to school for a graduate degree, effectively changing my career. That's not something I ever really figured on doing, but it's worked out wonderfully. It puts me as a full time student right now. So half those books I'm reading are theory and research.

I've lived completely on my own, no roommates, for over several years now. It's great having the whole fridge/freezer to myself.

I'm a night owl.

I like a good virgin piña colada, and getting caught in the rain. Except I am into yoga.

And I think it will be good for me to finally have a place to spout off on the good, the bad, and the ugly about being single.

EDIT: Just over one year after writing this introduction I'd gotten engaged and married. I still write here though because relationships are an ongoing thing. So while I might not be frustratingly single, I still have stories from when I was single, and I still get frustrated with life and the world at times. My husband is referred to as HP (Handsome Prince) in my posts.

Welcome

Singlehood. Love or hate it, it's something we all have to go through at some point. Sure, you're the only one you have to consult about your social schedule and the socks on the floor are always yours, but wouldn't it be nice to delegate dinner responsibilities to someone else once in a while? Or kiss whenever you darn well please?

Of course!

For some, singlehood only lasts a couple years out of high school. Others have to wait much longer to find that special someone. Regardless, everyone eventually has to deal with awkward first dates and weird pick-up lines and the first month are we or aren't we dance. Or the six month are we or aren't we dance. Meeting parents. The best friend test. The first road trip. The first kiss. The first fight. The twenty-fifth fight. The break-up. The first meeting after the breakup.

There are stories in every one of them, and we're here to document our experiences. The three of us have been friends for years, but are now spread all over the country. This blog will be a way for us to share our stories with each other and with you.

We do want to clarify one thing. Our marital status does not define us. We're many things other than singletons - we're daughters, sisters, friends, students, professionals, shoe collectors, pet owners, lovers of all things sparkly, Mormon (sorry, no sex stories here), writers, thinkers, etc. We have two Republicans and one Moderate. We're a blonde, a brunette, and a redhead (insert bad joke here).

We're very happy with our lives and the things we've been able to experience thus far, especially finding each other. If we don't have husbands yet, at least we have each other to celebrate and bemoan that fact with.